True belonging is the spiritual practice of believing in and belonging to yourself so deeply that you can share your most authentic self with the world and find sacredness in both being a part of something and standing alone in the wilderness. True belonging doesn´t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.
Acting culture can be brutal. The notes can simply say, “Not attractive enough. Too old. Too dark-skinned. Not skinny enough.” They tell you to develop a thick skin so things don´t get to you. What they don´t tell you is that your thick skin will keep everything from getting out, too. Love, intimacy, vulnerability.
I don´t want that. Thick skin doesn´t work anymore. I want to be transparent and translucent. For that to work, I won´t own other people´s shortcomings and criticisms. I won´t put what you about me on my load.
Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don`t belong. You will always find it because you´ve made that your mission. Stop scouring people´s faces for evidence that you´re not enough. You will always find it because you´ve made that your goal. True belonging and self-worth are not goods; we don´t negotiate their value with the world. The truth about who we are lives in our hearts. Our call to courage is to protect our wild heart against constant evaluation, especially our own. No one belongs here more than you.